Recently I spoke to a working parents network about how to define what’s next in their careers using an exercise from my Soul Search, Research and Job Search approach:
I had them write out a vision of their ideal day from start to finish. It was fun and inspiring to hear their scenarios filled with a balance of meaningful work, quality time for family, and quiet time for themselves.
As we delved into how to make these ideal scenarios a reality, I felt the excitement in the room turn to frustration. Many had been trying in vain to create better balance only to find that work or family demands always took precedence.
My Mom Left for Med School
Rather than debate, I decided to share the story of my Mom, who at the age of 28, with three small children moved two hours away to go to medical school and pursue her dream of becoming a physician.
I was 6, my sister was 5 and my brother was 10 at the time. Looking back, I never felt neglected by my Mother. We saw her every weekend and had fun adventures in the big city where she went to school. My father and grandparents took great care of us during the week, and after four years of school and one year of internship, my Mom was back home, kicking off her new career just 10 minutes from our home.
For the many years since, my Mom has become a sought-after physician, and patients adore her. She works hard but loves her work healing others. I can’t imagine what life would have been like had my Mom not had the courage to go after her dream job.
Why It Was Worth It
It took effort, it took time away from her family, but in the end, it inspired me to know that I can have the career that’s right for me and my family will be better for it.
So this Mother’s Day I encourage all Moms to take time for themselves to envision an ideal day in the life and go after it. It will inspire your children to go after their ideal careers too – a wonderful legacy to leave. Happy Mother’s Day!
Maggie Mistal is a certified career & life purpose coach, contributor to Whole Living magazine, and the host of "Making a Living with Maggie," which airs every Friday at 4 p.m. ET on Martha Stewart Living Radio, Sirius 112, XM 157.
From: Craig Zabransky | 5/7/10 at 3:02 pm
Inspiring story. Thanks for sharing.
My mom retired from her dream job in social work. Yes, social work. She eventually obtained the position she always wanted, and helped foster care children gain more rights (and freedoms from their biological parents when in the best interest of the child).
At times sad and also emotional, but she helped create a better life for people, for children. A great example to her son. Thanks, Mum. Happy Mother's Day.
stay adventurous,
Craig
From: Maggie Mistal | 5/7/10 at 4:11 pm
Wow Craig, thanks for sharing your story. Your Mom made a living making a difference and that is an inspiration! Hope your Mum has a great Mother's Day!
I also received these comments on Facebook regarding career lessons taught by Mom:
Laura Gassner Otting commented:
"My mom taught me how to pull off (1980 in Miami) hair, makeup, and three inch heels, and still be the toughest man in the room."
Linda Mastrangelo Zaino:
"If your going to do something, do it right or don't bother doing it at all." (Meaning =give 100% don't do things half heartedly.)
From: Suzanne Goldberg | 5/8/10 at 4:53 am
My mother was a stay at home Mom and she really encouraged me to get a college education (something she did not have). Enjoyed the show today, Maggie, and how blessed you were to have such an amazing mother.
From: Maggie Mistal | 5/8/10 at 1:12 pm
What did you learn from your Mom when it comes to work? Here's what more of my Facebook friends had to say...(coincidentally I too worked in my Mom's office for my first job!)...
"My first "real" job was in my Mom's office as the receptionist. I learned the value of customer service, professionalism (from dressing right to dealing with people) and organization. It was a great experience!"
Another said his mom taught him to "Work fast!"
I welcome your comments - What Did Your Mom Teach You?
From: Maggie Mistal | 5/8/10 at 1:15 pm
That's amazing about your Mom Suzanne. Thanks for sharing and so glad to hear you got your college degree b/c of your Mom.
Thanks for tuning into my show - it was great to be able to share my Mom's story. She's so busy working she forgets the great positive impact she has.
From: Maryann | 5/8/10 at 4:49 pm
On Mother's Day I remember my mom and appreciate her influence on my life. I grew up in a time where many woman stayed at home. She taught me, I have a choice. A career had enriched my life.
From: Maggie Mistal | 5/11/10 at 3:06 pm
It's wonderful you had a Mom who encouraged you Maryann. What a positive influence! And congrats on your enriching career. Happy Mother's Day!