Fun is my favorite F word, because in my life there’s nothing more divine than having more fun than anyone else. Nothing exhilarates and sends the soul soaring more than the best time ever. What makes fun divine is how it never fails to lift us up and carry us through the best and worst of times. With an infinite number of ways to have more fun than anyone else, it took me fifty years to find four.
Find Fun People
Oddly enough, one of the hardest things to find is fun people. This is what I watch for: good appetite, interesting work, great storytelling, twisted sense of humor, fresh insight, searching spirit, and brave choices. Consider yourself the luckiest person alive if you’ve found fun people; and if you haven’t, work on becoming a fun person yourself.
Be a Fun Person
The only foolproof way to have more fun than anyone else is for you to become a fun person first. In addition to growing up in a funny family, I found three ways to become funny: make yourself interesting, fear nothing, and discover perfect timing. Pay attention to the strange, disturbing, boring, moving, and hilarious parts of the day because every moment has infinite potential for fun. A fun person is extraordinarily attentive to the present moment as a divine opportunity for fun.
Don’t Think About Yourself around Other People
There are those cursed with the compulsion to focus everyone’s attention on them. That is near irremediable. A good general rule is to think about yourself when alone, and in the presence of others, think and ask about them. Not only does that make you an interested and interesting person, but it offers the greatest potential for fun. If you want to become a seriously funny person, forget about yourself around other people.
If it looks Like Fun and Doesn’t Break the Ten Commandments, Do It
No one likes rules because they usually stand in the way of immediate gratification, but you are not likely to have more fun without them. Limitations, boundaries, comfort zones, all let us know the point beyond which we do not go without getting screwed up, hurt or end up hurting others.
While the Ten Commandments are the most famous list for living, think about your own. “No Hitting,” is a good commandment, as is “Control your flock by putting them in a large pasture.” Or, “If it looks like fun and doesn’t break the Ten Commandments, do it.”
Until next week, think about this: “It is you who have created the soul, and You who have driven it wild and crazy.” --Rumi
Karol Jackowski, Ph.D., became a nun in 1964. She's also been a college administrator, graduate of New York University, manager of a toy store, author of eight books, painter of religious folk art, and sister to everyone she meets. Please visit her website at KarolJackowski.com.