On Tuesday, I shared an exercise my friend Esther Hadasa devised to outline how we expend our energy. By studying the top 10 to 15 things that energize us in contrast to 10 to 15 things that can drain us, we can begin to better discern how we channel the amazing life force we all possess. We might also notice some interesting and potentially conflicting overlap, too.
On my lists, there was definite conflict pertaining to socialization. Few things energize me like teaching yoga, volunteering, life coaching, and sharing time and ideas with loved ones, friends, and even interesting strangers. If I don’t get enough alone time, however, I can feel overextended and less centered and present. My tongue can feel heavy and my speech less intentional and, at times, wandering and idle. If I’m under rested while teaching, I feel dualistic. Likewise, I find myself longing for the unparalleled processing ground quiet allows me (by quiet, I also mean a disconnect from e-correspondence). On top of this, my creativity and focus can wane.
There are a few antidotes I’m trying to put into practice. One is getting better about lovingly saying no to various social events, another is reminding myself of the sacred nature of my meditation and practice space, as well as my day off.
The following excerpt from Kahlil Gibran’s "The Prophet" also helps guide me away from over-scheduling and idle speech and sharing.
“You talk when you cease to be at peace with your thoughts;
And when you can no longer dwell in the solitude of your heart you live in your lips,
and sound is a diversion and a pastime.
And in much of your talking, thinking is half murdered.
For thought is a bird of space, that in a cage of words may indeed unfold its wings but cannot fly.”
So, this week, I invite you to observe your speech.
When is it excessive or less focused?
When might it feel forced?
When might you better sit with something before reacting verbally?
When does the ability we have to share energize and inspire you and those around you?